LOVE 'EM, DON'T STRIP 'EM!!!

It has been a while since I last blogged. I guess it would be the unfortunate incident of a fellow woman being stripped naked in public in the name of "kufunza adabu"(discipline), that would instigate a come back.

I am appalled that in 2014 my fellow Kenyans choose to act so uncouth. It was my expectation that with the integration of technology and education, that we at least learn to employ the simple concept of being civil. I guess not. Evidently we missed a class or two. Or maybe what we need is a quick refresher course. My minute yet invaluable intelligence would lead me to google and from an online source (Dictionary.com) I found this very simple definition. Please allow me to indulge you in its light.

Civil (Adjective) : Adhering to the norms of polite social engagement, not deficient in common courtesy.

From the same source was this very well structured sentence. "After their disagreement, their relations were civil though not cordial."

 Both illustrations unanimously demonstrate this fact, to be Civil you need not agree with the other party. You need not even be excited about their company but you demonstrate Common Courtesy, deserved by simple virtue of them being human.

Note: To be Civil you need not Agree.

I admit, I do feel that we ladies do need to check our dress code. A longer skirt, an extra button wouldn't hurt but I also recognize that standards of decency are more of a cultural issue than a matter of religious protocol. What I consider modest/classy to another could very well be trashy. A pencil skirt isn't modest in every person's eyes. Some people feel we should wear mumus to look modest others find it highly unattractive. With these differences one thing rings true, it is impossible to govern dressing on the streets.

Dressing in itself is a way of expression.  What we should look to do is deal with inward issues which now reflect on the outside. Stripping and humiliating a woman, running their self worth down to the ground is not how we make it better. I have seen more plumbers cracks in my day than I care for, especially at religious events. Don't get me started on the discolored boxers, but does that warrant me pulling their pants down because I feel a need to "help" them give a free show? Absolutely not, Now I might buy you a gallon of bleach. The human being in me however must have a respect for the presence of another human being whether I agree with their presentation of themselves or not. For all I know they are probably wearing a hand me down and cannot afford a belt. Maybe they lack in basic Home Ed and it was just a case of color running over their white briefs/boxers because they did not know to separate the whites from the coloreds. Maybe they are simply unaware of how unkempt they look, the possibilities are endless.

Gentlemen, I call you gentle because I hope it sparks some humanity in you, did it ever occur to you that she lost a button from her blouse on her way out and just realized it while in a matatu and it was too late to get back home, or that she gained a few pounds and just does not have the money to buy fitting pants. I can hear you scoff saying "No Way", but I put it to you as a possibility that is very real. Until you get your conclusion from the horse's mouth you ride on speculation. Assumption is the lowest form of knowledge, Just when you think you know, You Don't!!!

I know many men that deliberately choose to show their knickers because in their minds they believe they are wearing shorts but I hate to break it to you. When you have washed it so many times, the fabric is see through. When we cannot bare to look at you directly because we are afraid we will have a perfect view of your huuhah, honey you NEED to pull up your pants.  Well we could choose to make you a public spectacle by shouting the suggestion "vuta suruali, unatuonyesha nini " and even follow it up with a sneer, but wouldn't it be a better approach for one of us to buy you a belt or better yet a pair of new pants just incase the problem is really a lot more than I can possibly comprehend or for you to communicate? An even simpler approach would be set you apart and let you know your privates are in public display.

I implore all humanity to participate in the simple act of employing grace in the form of simple courtesy. You don't have to say a word of hello but you DON'T NEED to hurl insults. You don't have to give a hug but you DON'T NEED to rip their clothes off either. It is not our business to reprimand dress code, REALLY!!! I promise you a simple gesture of a shawl to cover a skirt too short, or a jacket to cover an over exposed burst will do much more  than stripping an individual.

"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins " 1Peter 4:8 (NIV)

It is unfortunate that many Christian men applaud this very disgraceful act against these sisters,Yes they are your sisters. As if to say that grace accorded to these women is not sufficient for the act of indecent exposure. God forbid the blood of Jesus be applicable to this very heinous crime of showing some mammal features, but off course indulgence in masturbation and pornography in these accusers is definitely forgivable. After all nobody saw them, it happened in the "secret place" whose secrecy might I add is compromised fully by God's full nature of being Omnipresent. Forget the fornication that ended up in an unplanned pregnancy followed by total irresponsibility by act of refusing to assist in the rearing of the child they so happily helped create. Noo...it wasn't hard enough she had to carry the child for nine months but now she has to raise this child on her own, can I hear #Deadbeat. But off course she asked for it, she lay on that bed but we forget there was a farmer laying there with her ready to "plough" and "sow". Plough and sow he did like a pro because we now see the fruits he now refuses to tender to. But nooo lets turn away the side eye and give it to the young teenage girl who is dressing skimpy because she saw Beyonce in a corset and laces panties, instigating a misguided need to follow what's trendy. These same men secretly enjoy a Beyoncé video in the privacy of their homes #DoubleStandards.

Lets be serious! Lets be real! Lets be just! Aren't we all on the same boat? Aren't we all sinners going to hell? Since when did a man's righteousness save him?  The only thing salvaging us from fate, is Jesus and the sacrifice He made for us.

Come on people, "Judge not, that you be not judged. For with that judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use it will measured back to you," Mathew 7:1-2 (NKJV). Are you really squeaky clean?


 I feel badly for these women, because I understand clearly the effect such abuse would have on their person let alone their reputation. I feel even worse for those who participated in and even supported such abuse regardless of them being male or female (yes you), because in their indignation they forgot the greatest virtue, love.  I pray that we choose to love and not hate. I pray that before we cast the stones we soo readily hold in our hands we first stop to look into the mirror.

"...Let him who is without sin cast the first stone...", John 8:7 (ESV)

 It is simple, "for all have sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God", Romans 3:23 (NIV). Therefore lets us deal with each others inadequacies with compassion respecting other human beings.

There you have it, my rant complete. Blessings y'all...<3 <3 <3

Respect,
Penzi Amani